Don’t Stand So Close To Me [BCM240]

sting and the police

Pretty sure that Mr. Sumner (aka Sting) and his rocking band The Police best described their desire for personal space when they wrote their 1980’s hit song Don’t Stand So Close To Me. For those of you who haven’t heard this piece of lyrical genius a link has been included for your listening pleasure.

We all have been accused of it from time to time and people may do the same thing to us regularly. Yes fellow people of the Internet I am talking about personal space. It is that invisible boundary of comfort that seems to be encroached by strangers and even your own friends and family when you least expect it.

It is always the same scenario. You’re just minding your own business, not bothering anyone when someone comes to sit in the chair next to you when there is a thousand other empty chairs in the lecture theatre. It just isn’t necessary. Out of obligation to be an upstanding citizen you grimace, breathe deeply and continue to take your notes.

This week’s lecture and tutorial were both about defining what is private and public space. One point that was made in the lecture is the idea that public versus private spaces is ‘consistently disrupted’ by new media technologies. In an article I found this morning on Mashable ‘Social Media Couples’ I was completely confused by this new trend that has been emerging throughout social media.


Yes people, couples aren’t satisfied by vowing their lives to one another, they now must share their social media profiles as well. Call me a cynic, but surely this could only end in disaster.

The article states that “couples are foregoing social media independence and merging their accounts in order to feel closer to one another”. To me this idea seems like an invasion of personal space. If Facebook or any other social media platform wanted us to have joint accounts with our significant other, wouldn’t that have been an option when we subscribed? In today’s digital society a Facebook account to those who are immersed in digital technology is considered a valuable source of personal identification. Your own sanctity to post content that has relevance to your thoughts and ideas. It is your own personal space. Although most technological theorists would argue that by no means is Facebook a private space on the Internet, psychologically it is to us. Our own wall, photos and any other content we wish to post are exclusive to us or to anyone who wish to share it with.

So next time you are having the ‘let’s create a joint social media page’ chat to your ‘wifey’ or ‘boyfy’ take a second to think about your definition of personal and private space. If your still undecided check out Buzz Feeds ’23 Reasons Why Facebook Couples Are The Worst’.

If anyone does know of couples that have joint social media pages feel free to share your thoughts with me on Twitter or leave a comment on this post.
Tweet me at @fluke_aus.

Luke Macdonald
2nd Year Media & Communication & Commerce Student @UOW
Majoring in Digital Communication & Marketing


7 thoughts on “Don’t Stand So Close To Me [BCM240]

  1. I know a couple that have a joint Facebook account, and it’s wierd. If I want to just talk to him, for example, I always have the thought of ‘what if she logs in before he does’. So I constantly feel like I can’t just message one without the other nosing about, even though they must feel comfortable seeing messages intended for each other.

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